Dating etiquette when to call after a date
If you're interested in someone, maintain eye contact – if you aren't, don't.
If you say ‘no' to an invitation, he may well think you're playing hard to get and will probably persist.
In most European countries, rather than going on specific ‘dates' as you might in the US, getting to know someone romantically is far more casual: "Walks in the afternoon/evening which may be followed by an informal drink at a café or a bite to eat at lunchtime", or "meeting up in a group with friends" is not uncommon, says some European expats.
In the Netherlands you might take a walk or go on a bike ride.
If you really aren't interested, then be very clear and tell him politely but firmly (the hints that might work back home, won't work here).
Here's a guide to take you through your first Euro date.
In the US and other English-speaking countries, the kiss just doesn't have the same significance it does elsewhere.
For example, in the UK, a woman might kiss one or more men when she's out in a club or bar (or vice versa) but it wouldn't necessarily mean anything or lead to a relationship of any kind.
In Europe, getting to know someone romantically is fairly laid back.
People don't tend to go on ‘dates' with complete strangers but instead often get to know someone who's already in their circle or the friend of a friend, and then it ‘just happens' and they decide to go out together alone. There aren't too many rigid rules, either: "In the Netherlands there are no set rules – you might do all or nothing on the first or tenth date," and, "the timescale between the first date and having sex in France could be anything from 20 years to 20 seconds," said European expats.
Whereas in France, if you kiss someone on the lips (or have sex) it means you're ‘in a relationship'. In the UK or US, there's much debate about how long to wait before calling after a first date. Too long and it can seem like they're not really interested.